My quest to rebuild my life is something I expected to take time, planning and some kind of effort on my part, wrong. I am fortunate to have had some friends pull me right under their wing and show me another side to life...and in doing that the kids and I have been none stop for three days now. It's all good stuff and its set to get busier, more later.
Last Monday my uncle and aunt decided to come down from the Midlands for a visit. I spent the day laughing so much I hurt. It was so good to spend time with them as apart from one visit a few weeks ago I hadn't seen them for almost 30 years! I got all the ups and downs of their lives and my cousins, and though that missed time will never come back it's good to know they are all doing well. Kirsten's friends mum called in while they were here so that added fuel to the already very talkative fire! Charley totally knackered out my poor uncle Roy though, having him run from one shop to another just for some crisps!! Lol Charley was adamant he was NOT uncle Roy, he was Grandad, so we left it at that! My dad thought it was funny when I told him, though I think there was a hint of friendly jealousy going on there!! :) My cousins have me 'booked' for a variety of events in the next few months. Like me, my one cousin turns 40 in October and is having a massive family get together, that scares me cos there's more to our family that I haven't met yet! As for my 40th, one of my friends is planning a party but as I dont drink alcohol and dont do well around those that are intoxicated I'm not too sure on that idea. Right now i'm loving the idea of getting away for a couple of days all on my own, just me, alone. I think it just might be possible too! :)
On Tuesday my Scott came home for a while (he goes back this Tuesday). Getting Jay here without telling him why was a nightmare. Usually he is in and out here every half hour, but this day it was flippin hard work! In the end I text his girlfriend and told her I had a disaster going on and I need Jay here urgently but Jay was out and Charlene was home...and she panicked, grabbed her keys and ran round here! Oh how I laughed when I realised, she laughed and confirmed just how gullible she is (though it wasn't her fault this time!!). Eventually we got Jay here, totally under false pretences and when he saw Scott standing just inside the dining room his cute lil face just beamed! They hugged and hugged and hugged! Charlene and I just looked at each other and wondered when they were going to stop! Lol But, it was great to see my boys in the same room and that their obvious bond had not gone or lessened at all.
I haven't spent as much time with Scott as i'd like to with one thing or another but we've had very late nights when we've all grabbed what time we could to actually catch up with each other. I dont know who's more tired him, kirsten or me!! I wouldn't change it for anything though, totally priceless. Scott's favourite food is pasta and pizza, he's as skinny as they come even though he eats like its going out of fashion, so guess what we are now fed up of? Yep, pasta and pizza!! I treated us to a take out on Friday night, he had a Pizza Hut pizza meal and the kids and I had a chinese. We lined up on the sofa, banging elbows as we ate but no one wanted to move, and watched the start of two movies, I say the start because for some reason they wouldn't play for more than 10 minutes. In the end we decided to share our favourite music from you tube. Scott, Kirsten and I went through so many genre's that i'm sure i've lost a few years on my life...I almost feel 'in the know' and rather 'funky' as Kirsten called me!! Lol We reminisced (sp) from when Scott was a kid and we used to have a Music Night on a Saturday where he and Jay were allowed to have all their favourite music on rather loud and stay up late (10pm). The one that shocked Kirsten was Roy Chubby Brown's 'Alice, who the F is Alice'. Now for those of you know recognise that track, understand I saw it as a trend thing, I did not have the gospel in my life then to realise that even small things can fester our spirits! So, going back to the 90's, the boys were allowed to say the swear word ONLY as they sang that song, never ever at any other time and thankfully they didn't so I felt justified. I have to say though, if they said that swear word now i'd hollar at them and remind them of 'who they are'!!! Lol Once he got past the other memories of his childhood and making me squirm at some of the things he remembered me doing (such as having a Christmas party in July and a fancy dress party for his first tooth that came out) we settled down and all dozed off on the sofa...listening to Maroon 5!! Isn't 18 a bit young to be doing so much exhaustive reminiscing?? Lol
My friend, Tina and I have been plotting and planning with some stuff, one of them is a camping trip. Originally I was going to go with them on Monday till Friday till I realised I had some legal stuff to deal with this week and couldn't do it, so now while i'm home Kirsten will go with them and i'll go down to Burnham on Wednesday and stay till Friday. As they need two cars though I am the designated driver to drive Gray's car (Tina's hubby) down on Monday and then I get the use of it for myself while mine is off the road. He has one very cool, high class car though, leather interior and all the mod cons!! Me is happy!! I aint been camping for years and although its not very warm right now i'm excited to just get away for a couple of days.
Aside from that I've been working on getting my first Netmum's meet-up organised, i've got chatting to some really cool mums in the area and a lot of positive feedback about what kind of things they'd like us to do. It's going to be a lot of hard work but there's no real negatives about it, only positives, especially for Charley and me so I am excited to be involved with it all. I am STILL looking to get me a support-mum though to fall back on cos for one person its a whole lorra work! :) This time of the year is probably the most intense time to start something like this cos you really gotta be ahead of yourself with the things that are coming up. First we have the Introduction Meet Up, then we have Halloween, can't really count bonfire night due to the health and saftely that it would involve, but then there is Christmas and with everyone else preparing and planning for Christmas its going to be crazy to secure the right place and stuff...SO I have come up with an idea to organise a toddlers/kiddies workshop to make some cards, tags and gift bags. It doesn't matter what they are like cos its their own artwork but the opportunity for them to 'do' what they see mum doing is hopefully going to transform them into Mummies Little Helper, especially when cooking Christmas dinner!! LOL Ok maybe not but its ok to be optimistic right? :)
For years now I have had long hair and more often than not it has been tied up, so I took the plunge and got some inches chopped off it. I'm not sure what I make of it yet even though its a style I chose myself so I'm not going to post any photo till I'm used to it!!! Who knows, I might just decide to get a totally short style instead, cos right now i'm feeling really strange about it. Is it just me that goes through this feeling after a new hair style?
I think i've found my next house too, its four bedrooms, the rent is just a little more than this and its still in Gloucester. The area is better than this one and it has a garden that looks like a garden not an over grown jungle! All i'm waiting for is the lady to convince her hubby that the garden really isn't that bad!! Good luck is what I say to her, cos it's THAT BAD to me!! :)
This is the first time i've stopped and been able to take a breath and actually think without interuption. I'm not complaining but its nice to just take a few minutes to get myself together, even if it is almost 3am and I have to be up in 4 hours time!!! Lol Thank goodness for my scriptures is what I say, having that change of theme in my head is most definitely a relaxing and welcome one. The book of Alma is one that is full of so much sad and wonderful stuff, there is no way someone cant be inspired by it. I feel like I can cope with almost anything right now, and that has to be a good thing right? :)
For the benefit of Chris, here is a conversation I had with Charley at dinner time tonight.
Me: Charley, please sit still and eat your dinner
Charley: I am sitting still, its my bottom thats moving
Scott spit out his pasta and I burst out my camomile tea cos he just isn't THAT witty at times like this!
Earlier today he was playing in the garden in his Fireman Sam uniform, I was in the kitchen and he came barging in shouting his head off and crying. Stopping him in his tracks and bending down to his level I asked what was wrong. Like any mum I thought he had hurt himself but this is what I got:
Charley: Sam's got burned
Me: Who's Sam?
Charley: Fireman Sam
Me: (sigh of relief) Where is he?
Charley: There (pointing to an empty space in the garden)
Me: Ok well how about we throw some water over him?
Charley: Dont be silly mummy, its only pretend
Now given the yelling and the crying I figured it would be good to just play along and show some compassion. Stupid me!! Ever felt stupid by a 3 year year old before?!!! :)
On that note i'm off to settle down now, and decide if this is the most boring entry i've ever put in this blog or not!! LOL No matter anyways, cos its my blog and I reserve the right to be boring when I want to!! Lol
No photo in this post, I just cant be bothered to go find something I like! :)
Have a happy Sunday :)
~*~Debs~*~
