I regularly read
Mormon Times and love the bloggers who share the fantastic inspirational messages of anything from funny things in their lives to inspirational experiences and more. I have just had this message bought to my attention by the lovely Janis over on my
Facebook friends list and decided it was well worth sharing. If we took this small piece of adver from the bloggers own mother the works we could do would be phenominal! Enjoy...
My dad was raised Christian Scientist before my parents converted to
the LDS faith in their twenties. He did not celebrate holidays in his
youth; therefore it doesn't even cross his mind to buy gifts on
Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Mothers Day, Christmas, etc. He would give
anyone the shirt off his back, but he rarely enters a store, and
frankly has not a materialistic bone in his body.
My mom discovered this soon after they got married when he seemed to
totally forget her birthday. Moments before they went to bed that
night, he said, "Oh Happy Birthday Jan, I was going to get you a card,
but I thought we could use the 25 cents." Naturally this did not feel
good at all, and in fact was devastating to her as a 19-year-old bride.
This did not make logical sense to my mom; it was her birthday, and
certainly he could sacrifice and spend the 25 cents. Nor did it make
logical sense to my dad to splurge and spend money for someone's
birthday, as they were on a tight budget and birthdays were obviously
not a priority.
This has been an interesting phenomenon for me to watch over the years.
My mom has often reminded me, "Becky, always let love transcend logic."
So throughout my life, I have watched my mom open up beautifully
wrapped packages on Christmas, Mothers Day, and her birthday. It has
been so fun to watch her get excited, as she would run over to my dad,
hug and kiss him, and thank him profusely for the wonderful gift. She
was so good, that there were even times when he started to think that
he was the one that actually bought the gift for her.
Then, on occasion, going against all logic and upbringing, my dad would actually go out and buy my mom a gift.
I will never forget the time that my dad had gone to the jewelry store
and bought my mom a necklace. I asked my mom if she liked it; she said,
"It doesn't matter if I like it, dad bought it, and I will wear it."
My mom just had her 72nd birthday. She was so excited to tell me that
dad had gone down to the corner drug store and bought her some
artificial tulips.
It has been wonderful as I have seen them both "let love transcend logic" over the years.
In contrast, I have a friend who will return every item her husband
buys for her. It doesn't make logical sense for her to keep them since
it isn't what she would wear, or use.
I remember my mom telling me how grandma wanted a new stove, but my
grandpa didn't want to buy her one. Money was not the issue, but
grandma was in the sunset of her life, and her days of cooking were
mostly a thing of the past. It did not make any logical sense to my
grandpa to buy her a new stove. My mom would tell him, "Dad, buy mom a
stove, you need to let love transcend logic."
I remember my mom giving this advice on several occasions. She would
say, "It may not make logical sense to you, to fill the car with gas if
it is still half full, but if your spouse stresses out because the gas
tank is half empty, then fill the tank with gas. Let love transcend
logic."
I have thought often of this advice, and tried to connect the dots in
my own life, as well as notice what motivates others in theirs.
I know of families with young children who chase the Spirit out of the
chapel each Sunday, not to mention making it almost impossible to hear
the speakers. It may not make logical sense to go to sacrament meeting
until their children are old enough to sit still. It certainly doesn't
make logical sense to attend church during the 1 p.m. block, as that is
right in the middle of nap time.
I know of those who feel awkward week after week, sitting alone in
church; it doesn't make logical sense to return each week to such
feelings of loneliness.
For those who have yet to see or believe the Signs of the Times, it may
not make logical sense to store up on so much food and water.
Just recently my mom told me that the stake president asked the members
in her ward to forego attending stake conference (broadcasted) in their
own building five minutes away to attend with a ward that is 45 minutes
away in the foothills; to give encouragement and support to them. I
said, "Mom, that doesn't make sense for you to drive so far when your
building is so close, those members will be just fine watching it by
themselves." Of course they drove to the mountains to support those
saints.
It didn't make logical sense for the pioneers to travel west in the
snow and cold, knowing the high risk of losing lives; or for the
brethren in the early days to leave their families to serve a mission
without a savings account or a food supply in reserve.
It doesn't make logical sense to postpone your education or go without seeing your grandchildren to serve a mission.
Sometimes it doesn't make logical sense to serve, nurture and forgive people who continue to hurt you.
To some it doesn't make logical sense to carry and deliver a child whom
the doctors had forewarned you is unhealthy and may be disabled.
To many it didn't make logical sense to fight for Prop 8 representing traditional marriage, in CA.
For some it doesn't make logical sense to pay 10% of your income to tithing and fast offerings when you have bills to pay.
There are situations in life that just don't make logical sense to some
people. Those who have chosen to follow the Savior are asked to "Let
Love Transcend Logic." Love for our Heavenly Father, love for our
Savior, and love for one another.
This is well illustrated in the story of the prodigal son. He took his
inheritance, and squelched it. He was careless, prideful, and
self-indulgent. There are details to the story that we simply do not
know; but what we do know is that he returned home to a father who
lovingly welcomed him and even celebrated his return. As one who
believes in natural consequences, that hasn't always made logical sense
to me. What a great example of letting love transcend logic.
I have heard it said, "Logic is an unfaithful master." If logic is what rules any of us, we will be betrayed in the end.
It is love that enables us do the hard things; it is love that enables
us to do the right things; it is love for our Heavenly Father, our
Savior and one another; that is why we do what we do.
So the next time we begin to lean in the direction of logic, it just might be a good time to "Let love transcend logic."
I know there is so much we can change with this one little bit of advice, so I suggest that we put away or pride, put away our self gratification and try things out the Lords intended way!
~*~Debs~*~